Andrea AvariCoaching for Creative IntegrationCreating Spice and Sparkle in your RelationshipAndrea Avari, Ph.D. is an intuitive spiritual coach working with clients to balance and integrate wellness, physically, emotionally, mentally, and spiritually. Andrea Avari is the author of A Hit of Heaven: a soul’s journey through illusion. Her next book, Letters from a Lunatic in Love: creating soulful relationships will be available at the end of the year. Relationships are about connecting. When two people first meet, hearts are racing, minds are full of creative ideas…...life is exciting and full of vitality. If we think back to the very first time we met a loved one…….we can remember that special feeling that we had. Our relationship was a priority. We chose to make it a priority. Like a growing plant, we fed it, watered it, fertilized it, and made certain that it felt the energy of the sun’s rays. Our relationship bank account was overflowing with positive connections. And then life happens. Our relationships move to other stages with careers, kids, house payments, etc. and we became very busy, tired, stressed with decisions and worries and we began to look for the easy way to get through the day. If we find something that works easily like a vacation somewhere, or a certain restaurant that we enjoy, we tend to keep going there, repeating the habit over and over again. Conversations become habitual without new energy and ideas and adventures sparking it up. It is not because we don’t want to, we usually just do what works and is easy. Harry, Did you pay the electric bill? Yes Maude, did you get the cat food? Withdrawals are now being made from the relationship bank account. We begin to take our relationships for granted as though they will always be there. That is the toxic gas that slows growth for partners. This process also applies to friendships and parenting. Taking each other for granted, that is what happens when we don’t put our relationships as a priority. Our relationship bank account balance begins to decrease. Here is a story (from a source I can’t remember) that illustrates the other side of this habitual relationship coin: Tom arrived home from running errands one Saturday morning to find his wife, Susan, gone. His daughter handed him a note from her mom: The note said….Go to the drug store. See the pharmacist. Even though Tom’s first reaction was, why? Who is sick? He went along with it. He got in his car and started it up. A tape began playing love songs. He smiled. When he got to the pharmacy, the pharmacist handed him a card. It said …Happy Anniversary! Now, head for the nearby store. When he arrived at the store, he was presented with a bottle of champagne and another note. This one said….Ready to celebrate? Not yet! On to the men’s shop first. A monogrammed shirt was his surprise there. Another note was on the shirt. It said, Almost done….but first, please stop at the grocery store. When he arrived a picnic basket packed with goodies was ready for him there. The last note simply had an address on it. It led him to a romantic little bed and breakfast, where Susan was waiting for him. The rest, as they say, is history. This little story makes us smile in remembrance of how it can be if we put our intentions into creating our relationship. What adventure would you create? What if you were to take some time and daydream your partnership into a new level of exploration? By writing down our intentions on a piece of paper and reading it periodically, we can begin to create the energy of manifestation. Read your intention and visualize it as your own adventure in your mind. See the colors, the textures, the laughter, the play…… put all the ideas of a romantic adventure into your mind like a movie. Play your movie over and over adding and subtracting elements as you create. If our thoughts create our reality, then what is the reality that you want to create with your partner? Copyright 2008 Andrea Avari. - - - - - Andrea Avari's blog is available at www.natteringnabobofpositivity.blogspot.com For further contact with Andrea Avari: Website: www.andreaavari.com Return to the Andrea Avari Regulars Home Page Return to the Regulars section Return to the Personal Development Forum Home Page
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